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Advice carers wish they'd been given at the start of their journey

Life’s most challenging situations have a way of bringing forth lots of advice from friends and family. While all of it is given with the best of intentions, not all of it is ... Read more

The signs of carer burnout that are easy to miss

I’d been living at my Dad’s house for just weeks when his cancer marched forward to win the war. It was a fast decline. One day he could walk, the next day he couldn’t. I was ... Read more

A guide to communicating with aged care staff

Coming to the realisation that a loved one needs to move into residential aged care (RAC) can be stressful for everyone involved. Read more

VIDEO: What's it like to die?

Professor Rod MacLeod from Hospice NZ, and one of Violet's clinical committee members, shares a sensitive deep-dive into the final days of a human's life. And what you might ... Read more

How to manage your emotions

It takes courage to be honest about how you are feeling – with the person you are caring for, with your family and friends or even strangers. But it only takes one person to open ... Read more

Lessons from the final days with my mother

My mother was a contemplative in her own way. A year before she died, she sent me a classic little poem she had written which was so pure and sweet that it still brings tears of ... Read more

Making the most of the final days

Caring for someone who is in the last stages of life can take a lot of time, energy and effort. For some people it can take over their lives, especially if there is no respite ... Read more

How acceptance changed everything - for the better

Caring for her terminally ill mother completely changed Ann Andersen’s perspective on how to ‘do death’: “When it’s my turn and I’m facing it, I’m going to speak openly and I’m ... Read more

The importance of open and honest conversations

When caring for someone who is approaching the last stages of life, through a life-limiting illness or frailty, it can often be easier to stay in a state of hopeful positivity; to ... Read more

How tough conversations helped this family cope

For Brendan Moran and his family, talking about his wife’s imminent death was natural and spontaneous. It started when Angie asked two things of her husband – to be cared for at ... Read more

VIDEO: Talk about death while you are still healthy

In a candid, heartfelt talk about a subject most of us would rather not discuss, Michelle Knox asks each of us to reflect on our core values around death and share them with our ... Read more

VIDEO: What really matters at the end of life

At the end of our lives, what do we most wish for? For many, it’s simply comfort, respect, love. BJ Miller is a hospice and palliative medicine physician who thinks deeply about ... Read more

From nurse, to mum, to carer

As the old saying goes ‘once a nurse, always a nurse’ and ain’t it the truth. I loved being a nurse practicing for over 17 years but never in my worst nightmare did I think I’d ... Read more

VIDEO: Let's talk about dying

Peter Saul asks us to think about the end of our lives — and to question the modern model of slow, intubated death in hospital. Two big questions can help you start this tough ... Read more

What to expect in the final days of life

Understanding what to expect in the last stages of life can be reassuring. It can help you and your family and friends live each day more fully with the person you are caring for.  Read more

The basics: end-of-life choices

In our experience, the ‘inner circle’ who care for the seriously ill or frail person – which may include partners, parents, sons and daughters and other people who matter the most ... Read more

Find services to help you care for your loved one

If you are caring for someone in the last stages of life, you may find the following services, resources and tools helpful: Read more

The importance of emotional support

Being able to talk honestly about how you are feeling is a good start. Often it can help to have these conversations with someone who is close to you – the person dying, a family ... Read more

How to share the load with friends and family

It’s important to ask for help People tell us that caring for someone in the last stages of life is one of the hardest things they’ve done; it requires deep reserves of strength, ... Read more

The basics: palliative care

It aims to alleviate pain and suffering and to integrate medical with spiritual, emotional and psychological aspects of care for the dying person and their family. Read more

VIDEO: Why we should all talk about dying

Dr Kathryn Mannix, palliative care consultant and author of ‘With The End in Mind’ talks about death and what death is like. Read more

The last six months of my mother's life

Dr Novak was a Jewish refugee imprisoned in Auschwitz during the Second World War. He looked after my grandfather in the last years of his life, visiting often when my grandfather ... Read more

How I learned to hold space for my dying mother

When my Mom was dying, my siblings and I gathered to be with her in her final days. None of us knew anything about supporting someone in their transition out of this life, but we ... Read more

The Basics: advance care planning

What is an advance care plan? An advance care plan details your future wishes for your health, care and other personal preferences, particularly for the end of your life. It ... Read more

The Basics: accessing disease specific information

Why are condition-specific organisations important? These organisations can provide specialist information and support that can assist you when caring for someone with a ... Read more

How doctors choose to die

Doctors know enough about death to know what all people fear most: dying in pain and dying alone. Read more

Where to find practical help

What help is available? As well as tending to the needs of the dying person, you may also need help with the many day-to-day tasks of running a household. Whether you have been ... Read more

Caregivers share their self care tips

Self-care is a powerful caring tool. It can prevent burnout, vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue, not to mention it’s a vital part of maintaining your general wellbeing.  “Not ... Read more

The basics: aged care

“Heroes are made by the path they choose, not the powers they are graced with.”- Ironman Read more